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Facing an Empty Nest

By Brenda S. Anderson — August 11, 2016

These next few weeks are going to be tough ones, busy ones, filled with life changes. This weekend our youngest son heads to NDSU for his junior year of college, then a week later, we’re loading the car and taking our oldest son down to Tampa for his final two years of college. Sigh. It’s true, you blink and everything changes. Soon my husband and I will be left with an empty nest.

And that’s good.

As a parent, you want to raise your children to be independent. As much as you hate to see them leave the nest, you still want them to fly. And when that flight takes off with joy rather than dissension, you know you’ve done your parenting job well.

Still, it’s not an easy thing watching them fly away. It’s a scary world out there, with lots of bad choices to be made. And like me, they’ll make their share of them. And then there are those things beyond their or my control … when they’re living hundreds of miles away, I won’t be able to rush to them.

Rather, I will wrap them in prayer. He’s got this. He made them to fly, and he’ll give them wings to soar.

So while I’m sad to say “goodbye” I’m thrilled they’re finding their wings. And they know, they will always be welcomed back home again.

but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

Isaiah 40:31

Find Your Wings, a beautiful prayer sung by Mark Harris

About Author

Brenda S. Anderson is the author of the gritty Coming Home Series. She writes authentic and life-affirming fiction. Learn more about Brenda at www.BrendaAndersonBooks.com.

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(8) Readers Comments

  1. Kav
    August 11, 2016 at 9:33 am

    Such a mix of emotions when you face this time in your life. I'm blessed in that my daughter still lives in the city not across the country. But there have still been adjustments to make. But you're right -- we want to raise them to be independent so we can't complain when they start acting independently. LOL

    • August 11, 2016 at 10:17 am

      The way-across-the-country part is the hard part. My son at NDSU? That's a 3-hour drive. Easily doable in a day. This really is going to impact my prayer life. :)

  2. Shari Barr
    August 11, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    The empty nest is bittersweet. I miss them but am so glad they're independent and can fly on their own. It's a good feeling all in all.

    • August 11, 2016 at 3:48 pm

      That's the prayer, that in whatever they do, they not only fly on their own, but that they soar. :)

  3. August 11, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    So hard to make this transition. But there is so much joy when they come home because they Want To! The adults we have raised can be such a blessing!

    • August 11, 2016 at 5:28 pm

      It's just going to be a new chapter in my life's book. Looking forward to turning the page!

  4. Dawn Ford
    August 12, 2016 at 4:39 pm

    Oh, I know. My youngest is sixteen with all kinds of plans for his future already. It was so bittersweet when the first two left. The last one will be really hard. I do look forward to it. But I'm sure going to miss having him around.

    • August 12, 2016 at 8:32 pm

      I hear ya! Our daughter will be at home yet for a few months after the boys go to school, so the nest won't be completely empty. But when she leaves, the house is going to seem very different. Not bad, just different. :)

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