Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful?

How many of you have ever watched the TLC show, What Not to Wear? I’m a little embarrassed to admit I thoroughly enjoy the show. What the co-hosts, Stacy and Clinton, do is surprise someone who has no fashion / make-up sense with a $5000 shopping spree and a make-over. (Someone like me who can’t fill a pinhead with her fashion and makeup knowledge. Seriously. Now if you want to talk baseball … Well, I digress.)

The catch is, their *victim* must turn over all the clothes in their closet. Now, while this show can be a bit humiliating for the person being targeted, it’s also often an eye-opener for them. It seems that that many of the people spotlighted share a singular issue: low self-esteem or poor body image. And they hide behind their clothes in one way or another.

They don’t see themselves as beautiful. The don’t see themselves as “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Part of the problem is, we live in an image-driven society where exterior “beauty” is lauded. The CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch is on record saying that his clothing line intentionally excludes the not-good-looking, the uncool people: Abercrombie & Fitch CEO Explains Why He Hates Fat Chicks. It’s a disturbing article. I can proudly say I’ve never purchased a single item from A&F, and I never will.

Here’s another perspective from a Christian woman on body image: Can anyone else relate?

1 Samuel 16:7b says,

“The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

Are you seeing what God is seeing?

Recently, Dove released an emotional and very telling video that demonstrated women’s self-image issues. I encourage you to take three minutes to watch this:


How many of you see yourself in that video? I’m slowly raising my hand.

Psalm 139: 13-14 says,

“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.”

Do you know that full well?

From what or whom do you derive your value? Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you truly believe that you are fearfully and wonderfully made? Do you see a beautiful child of God? Are you seeing yourself through God’s eyes or the worlds’?

Personally, I’m working on it.


If you struggle with self-image, if you have trouble seeing yourself through the eyes of God, here are a couple of reading suggestions:

INVISIBLE by Ginny Yttrup – LOVED this novel. It’s very relatable, so at times it’s not an easy read, but it’s a very important one.

MOM IN THE MIRROR: BODY IMAGE, BEAUTY, & LIFE AFTER PREGNANCY by  Dena Cabrera, Emily T. Wierenga, with a foreward by Emme.

Here’s a song by Jonny Diaz, More Beautiful You, that speaks to who you are in God’s eyes.

Other encouraging music:

Beautiful by Mercy Me

Mirror by Barlow Girl

Beautiful by Bethany Dillon



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13 thoughts on “Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful?”

  1. I can’t connect to all the links just yet because I am at work, but I’ll be sure to watch them later.

    I love What Not to Wear and you’re right — it seems like every person’s fashion issue is about hiding their bodies not highlighting it.

    I didn’t know that about A&F and I certainly won’t be buying anything from them either! Bah!!!!

  2. Rose – I agree. Letting our inner beauty show, letting our light shine is so important! It’s too easy to get wrapped up in the world’s perceptions of beauty instead of remembering God’s.

  3. Kav – What I love about What Not to Wear is in the end, most people come to see themselves as beautiful. Not only have they been transformed physically, but emotionally & mentally as well. It’s all about perception.

  4. Wow, Brenda – that’s a powerful post. Raised by a single mother with very low self-esteem, it’s taken me my whole life to get to a point of somewhat acceptance of who I am. I know in my heart I’m beautiful to Abba, but that doesn’t always translate to my head.

    Thanks for the wake-up call.

  5. Thank you, Stacy. This is something I’ve long struggled with. I think God prompted me to write this as a reminder to myself of who I am in His eyes. If it speaks to anyone else, then I’m doubly blessed.

  6. I wonder if most women have this trouble? If I tell myself that God sees me as beautiful, maybe my self image would improve? I know I always feel like I need to try harder

  7. Hi Marianne – I do think it’s a pretty common issue. Even among models, I hear that self-esteem is very low. It’s a matter of whose voice we’re listening to: that little imp on our shoulders whispering in our ear, or God.

  8. Hi Veronica – It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this struggle.

    Wasn’t Invisible great? Ginny Yttrup does such an excellent job of dealing with very tough emotional issues.

  9. Good one, Brenda! I had heard about Abacrombie and Finch. I am flabbergasted, but not surprised. And that’s sad. I love the Dove real women. I sometimes look at people who I so enjoy being around, but who have a body image problem and think to myself (and sometimes say aloud to them, if it’s appropriate) how beautiful they are in my eyes. Beauty is not an image, it’s a light that comes from inside a person. I”ve known alot of beautiful looking ugly people. I wouldn’t trade anything to be them.

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