Change is Constant

We are in the process of down-sizing. Hubby wants to retire to move on to his next thing, whatever that is. My first book is coming out in APRIL. Oldest daughter is happy and healthy in NYC. Youngest daughter is about to graduate from college.

All these things indicate change. Change of life, change of situation, change of circumstance.

Another thing happened in the past week that has me dwelling a little more on the past.

My last great-aunMs.-Dorothy-botht, Dorothy, passed away at the age of 96 and a half. She was widowed in 1976, so she was a widow longer than she was a wife. Her life wasn’t perfect, but when you put it all together, she was amazing. Spending time with her always brought stories that you’d never heard before.

My favorite is a story of her oldest sister, Thelma. Neither I nor my mother had ever heard it until my great-uncle passed away and the family gathered at her home.

The entire family was at church where revival services were being held that week. My great-grandfather was the song leader, and Aunt Thelma was the pianist.

The service came to the end, and the invitation was given. Granddaddy Phillips was perplexed. Where was Aunt Thelma?

She had sneaked out of the church to run away with Uncle Henry to get married! Aunt Dorothy was VERY upset at the entire thing — It had utterly spoiled her fifth birthday!

If you don’t know your family stories, ask someone. Some of those stories might never get told if YOU don’t know them and pass them on! There are stories of using bread sacks for snow boots, of identical pairs of shoes (of different sizes) mixed up by a pair of brothers, of mismatched earrings, and so much more.

Life is a rich tapestry of stories. As your life changes, hang on to the constants and take comfort and enjoy the stories of change in your past. Share them!


10 thoughts on “Change is Constant”

  1. Love that story! And what a fond way to remember your aunt. 🙂 When talking with Dad, every once in a while new-to-me tidbits sneak out about him or my grandparents. I should write them down.

    1. Those are the best stories, I think. Sometimes I think we’re missing a lot of book-inspiring opportunities! lol!

  2. I LOVE old family stories! I always try to get my grandma or my in-laws talking about the “olden days” when I can, so we don’t lose that part of our family history. What a fun story, Regina!

    1. I always liked being the “fly on the wall” when I was a kid. As adults, we need to let the kids stay in the room while we’re talking old times! They enjoy it as much as we do! lol!

  3. What a great family story, Regina! And I’d like to say “amen” to hanging onto your family’s stories. I think we should go even farther and right them down. My great grandfather did just that in a biographical essay. It’s about six single spaced typed pages and covers everything from his presence at the opening of the Cherokee strip to how he met my great- grandmother. My great-great grandmother (his mother) also wrote one. It’s much shorter, but she talks about going to a school with grease-paper windows, spelling bees, and women fighting for the right to vote.

  4. Seriously? You end the story there???? I want to know why Aunt Thelma felt the need to runaway with Uncle Henry in secret! There’s a romance novel in there somewhere, Regina.

  5. Ha! Love this story. I’ve heard it said, and tend to agree with, that we don’t care about our history until there’s no one left to tell it. My kids at this point are not interested in anything in our past. I do remember telling my husband’s grandmother I need to write this stuff down, but I never did. Now I so wish I had. I’m glad you have those stories to pass on. So fun!

    1. My kids are only just beginning to see the value in cemetery visits and keepsakes from these people they don’t know. I found a little notepad that my grandmother used for a journal starting with her first anniversary with my Grandfather. There is definitely a story there!

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